15/01/2014 - Relationships & Marriage

Remember the dizzy, heady days when you first met?

Relationships ... they can be full of mind blowing magical moments and soul-destroying sadness, all at the same time.  The great news is you really can be in charge of how you want your relationship to be!

When you first met - how was life in relation to finances, responsibility, family, health, aspirations and your outlook?  Let me kick start some thoughts for you; did you have a joint mortgage, kids, were you living by yourself, were you footloose and fancy free, were you just out to have a great time?

When you were younger - it was easier to stay in shape, it was OK to live week to week and the only time you were serious was when you were trying to convince someone that you were responsible, had direction and weren't always "playing up"?

Isn't it funny how what was and wasn't important in those early days and how the choices we made have, to varying degrees, "caused us trouble" today?  I'm talking about discussing values, principles, dreams, goals, wants, needs, parenting, what is a good wife, what is a good husband, the question of kids and if so, how many ... and so on.

At the time of meeting and that first year or so, to talk about this stuff was way too serious and well, it will work itself out right?  Wrong!

Over the next couple of tips and hints we will have a look at these points again and also talk about the biggest contributor to relationship difficulties.  That's right, the "C" word.......no not commitment, Communication, both types, female and male.

You will hear from me soon.  Until then, have a think about the stuff above and keep smiling.  Remember you can have all that you want in a relationship.  I will show you how